There are a ton of toys out there from small to large to well... very large. Picking them out online or in person can get overwhelming in our experience. Here are some tips for buying your first sex toy.
Body-Safe Material Stick to medical-grade silicone, ABS plastic, borosilicate glass, or stainless steel. These are non-porous, easy to clean (soap + water or toy cleaner), and won't harbor bacteria. Skip anything jelly-like, TPE, PVC, or "skin-safe rubber"—they're porous and can cause irritation or worse. Silicone feels soft and skin-like; it's the gold standard for most starters.
Choosing your type You probably know what you're shopping for in a broad sense—if not, that's ok, we'll get you up to speed.
Clit stimulators: Hugely successful for the ladies; if you're a tough nut to crack, one of these is a great option to choose from. Just start slow—different brands have different power and settings even at the low level.
Dildos: They come in all shapes and sizes depending on your preferences. These usually look how you'd expect them to and function mostly by you doing the work. Can be a great starter toy, but we would recommend an upgrade to a vibrator for versatility.
G-spot Vibrators: Unlike plain dildos, these usually look more like an abstract art piece than a sex toy. Again, all shapes and sizes—they can rotate or create a "come hither" finger action to hit the right spot. Some have multiple extensions from the base to stimulate the clit or the back door. For a starter one though, a curved G-spot vibrator would be the best route—simplicity on the first toy is a feature in itself.
Butt Plugs and Prostate Massagers: Anal can be an experience for both genders, but the key is time, lube, and comfortability. We would recommend a training kit off the bat—cheap, safe kits are available for roughly the same price as a vibrating plug or massager and usually are a more comfortable route. Lube is an essential for going in the back, so do pick out a good lube. Toys are typically recommended to use water-based for silicone toys and beginners; once comfy, hybrid or silicone lube can give longer glide for anal.
For The Guys There are prostate toys and dildos like mentioned above, and then there's a few other options that remain on the more beginner side.
Cock Rings: These are fairly straightforward—they go around your manhood; some also go around the jewels too. Cock rings work by gently restricting blood flow out of the erect penis to help maintain a firmer, longer-lasting erection and often intensify sensations for both partners. Vibrating cock rings can be a great way to introduce toys into the bedroom—they stimulate both parties, and if you're feeling bold, give your partner the remote to control the settings.
Strokers: Huge variety. Some vibrate, some have heaters and do the stroking for you, some twist around, and some do it all. For a starter, pick safe materials, easy cleaning, maybe multiple entry points to have options.
Now let's match a toy to what you want.
- Clit-Focused (Easiest Win for Most Starting Out): Bullet vibrators or air-pulse/suction toys. Pinpoint buzz or sucking sensation builds slow to strong, hands-free-ish. Super discreet, great solo or during partner play.
- Penetration Newbie: Slim silicone dildo or small vibe (4-5" max, curved for G/P-spot if you want).
- Couples Vibe: Vibrating cock ring or small egg/remote vibe. Adds buzz for both without overcomplicating—perfect for shared fun.
- Prostate or Anal: Start small, go slow, lube, lube, lube. Anal training kits are good for both genders; if used properly can definitely improve your rear entry experience and will reduce the odds of hurting yourself or your partner. Once you're comfortable, then look at vibrating plugs or even other penetration toys—when it comes to going in the back door, don't slam it open.
Practical extras that matter:
- Rechargeable > batteries (consistent power, eco-friendly).
- Quiet motor if privacy is key.
- Simple one-button controls—no fumbling.
- Budget wise: $20–80 for quality without commitment. This range will keep the quality and performance but have less bells and whistles.
Ready to pick out your new friend? Take a look at the Entry Point Collection.
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